i realized the other day that if zach and i wanted to see my immediate family for brunch, it could take 6 weeks to see all of them. keep in mind, he's with me every other weekend. but even if it were every weekend, it could still take 3 weeks. oh, we do not have a big family - my mother, stepfather, brother along with his family, and sister along with her family. she lives in another state and therefore exempt from the brunch circuit.
i have a family that just doesn't speak to each other. so not only is getting together potentially very time consuming, it also reminds me how dysfunctional we've become. it's hard to believe that a once happy family came apart 14 years ago. i know this happens in families, i've heard so many stories. but i keep thinking that time just passes and wounds don't heal. i don't understand grudges.
there are many unfortunate parts to this story: one being in my already very demanding life it takes all this time to see each member of my family, another is the inability for us to celebrate events as a family, and the saddest is missing out on all the possible memories. the every day boring ones. we have individual memories, but zach has no memories of us together as a whole family. never in my wildest imagination would i have thought this would happen.
wwcd: i don't usually add a quote here...but i could not have said it better. "get mad, then get over it." colin powell
Everybody gets the same 24 hours in every day and yet priorities and patterns can make sharing any of those hours incredibly complicated! Luckily priorities and patterns are exactly things that can change... and as we go along our perspectives do shift. So perhaps the experience of family gatherings is one yet to come... here's hoping! I, too, have a small, scattered and distended immediate family. Maybe we just have to create our own people-we-love-clusters, blood relatives or not!
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