i remember saying this years ago and every now and then i think about how great it would be to have a wife at home. i was the wife at home for 5 years and enjoyed most of it. i enjoyed spending time with zach in the park, going to classes, at the zoo, in the house, running the house, going to the gym, seeing friends, doing the marketing and making a feeble attempt at cooking. i loved the freedom of the day and the relatively stressless life i was living.
but then again, i love working -- the challenges, the people, the different daily routine, the financial freedom. i cannot imagine not working...at least not for the foreseeable future. but, i would love a wife at home who would be able to pick up where i would like to leave off. marketing, cooking, putting the laundry away, making sure what breaks is fixed. someone who basically has nothing but time to think about zach, the house and me.
if i thought a man could fill these shoes, that would truly make him very sought after. if i thought i had any inclinations to have a partner who is a woman, that might also make this a bit easier. i watch "big love" and am totally jealous of the husband who has all those wives...how easy on so many levels. the other solution i think may be of interest to some: have many friends live in the same building and share parenting responsibilities.
wwcd: have always thought commune living answered so many of these questions
if i thought a man could fill these shoes, that would truly make him very sought after. if i thought i had any inclinations to have a partner who is a woman, that might also make this a bit easier. i watch "big love" and am totally jealous of the husband who has all those wives...how easy on so many levels. the other solution i think may be of interest to some: have many friends live in the same building and share parenting responsibilities.
wwcd: have always thought commune living answered so many of these questions
I have been saying I need a wife for years now! So happy I'm not the only one..i had the same reaction to watching the men in the first season on Mad Men. I realized that if I had been a man then, I would have NOT been a supporter of the women's movement. i would have been one of those who fought the change until my last breath. I mean, damn they had it good! made me think that we (as women who have certain freedoms today) need to really thank those men back then who allowed us in...or maybe we just snuck in while they were busy getting hammered at their five martini lunches... anyway, the fact that we find ourselves wishing for a wife confirms that it is a very valuable and indispensable role, too bad the salary sucks.
ReplyDeleteI like the communal lifestyle idea - sharing the load really helps. Takes adjusting - the hardest parts of the "wife" job are difficult among friends too -- establishing and respecting priorities and boundaries, and meeting everyone's needs including the wife's!
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