who holds the power

when i was in my early 20s i had a client who was in his 50s and he used to say to me that if women understood the power they possess, they would rule in business. of course, at that time, i had no idea what he was talking about. over the years i've come to realize that he meant: women have what most men want and men don't always think with their brains, therefore, women are in control.

it's not often we hear about married women in powerful positions involved in a sex scandal. my guess is between the career, kids, husband and friends, she's too tired to think about or have sex. but men are different. they risk so much for a little something on the side. clinton, edwards, sanford and just recently letterman have risked their families and careers.

to digress for a moment ... i'm a little more personally invested in the letterman story. i've had a not-so-secret crush on him since i was 21, so i'm feeling a little sad that i never applied for an internship back then.

i've worked in offices where men made inappropriate advances, but i never felt my job was threatened. i thought and still think that in many situations it's the way the woman responds to advances that determines the outcome. and may determine her future. please know i'm aware there are situations that are more serious, but many office dalliances are harmless and quite consensual.

wwcd: men in power are magnetic and will also be attractive to some women, but if women continue to think with their brains and keep their sense of humor, they will call the shots.