Friday, October 16, 2009

your mani pedi friend

i think we each have certain friends in our lives for certain reasons or certain activities....your friend to have lunch with, the other who loves to walk in the park, the one you always talk on the phone with, the one you can be a little bit snarky with, the one who can convince you to go to the gym....and the special ones you can cry with, let down your guard, and hold nothing back.

friendships are incredibly powerful and i have always held my friends close to my heart and consider them as important as family. tanya and i have been friends for 45 years. we lived in the same building, on the same floor at opposite ends of the hall and met when we were 5. we went to different schools, had and have different friends, but share a history that's taken us through all of our schooling, first loves, first jobs, first men, our parents divorces, our weddings, her moving to a different state, the birth of our sons, my divorce, and our families' many ups and downs.

new friends don't share all the memories, but friendships made as adults are based on different criteria. they don't know you through all the different stages in your life, but they've chosen to be friends with you now and like you for who you are now. my newer friends like barrilizfelicia and norasusankathy and mariaariellesarah and vivianjanetamy don't share the memories i share with tanya, but we're definitely making some good future memories.

wwcd: cherish the past, enjoy the present and share it all with a friend.


  1. I find that the slow revelation of character and history as you come to know a more recent friend can be so succulent, surprising, and sustaining. And it is remarkable how close I do feel to people that in some sense I "hardly know." Perhaps my oldest friends feel more familiar, but at this point in my life (mid-fifties) we have all grown so and offer all kinds of new layers as well as the connection or foundation of what we shared over time.

  2. Great post. Thank you, Casper. It reminded me of one of my favorite quotes:

    "Why did you do all this for me?" he (Wilbur) asked. "I don't deserve it. I've never done anything for you."
    "You have been my friend," replied Charlotte. "That in itself is a tremendous thing."

    Indeed it is.